We thought we may offer a few words of advice. A lot of this is common sense. But some may be grateful of the help; we offer a view of swinging and websites from our own point of view.

Be honest!
We think this is the important part of swinging. Honesty in relationship is vital to its development, and honesty in swinging is no different. If you swing as a couple you should have least have discussed the idea together and been honest about what you're both looking for. This theme should also be carried through to your ad, making sure that your description reflects who and what you are. Remember you are aiming to meet other people so embellishing descriptions etc may be the best starting point.

We feel that being honest is important if you receive a reply from someone that you don't like, again be honest, a polite refusal rarely causes offence, and again even if you meet others and don't like them we find that the same approach is best.

Placing an ad
Our advice on placing an ad would firstly be think! That's two fold. Think about the ad you are placing and who you are trying to attract. The best ads are the one's with detail. We are not saying it should be 'war and peace' but it should include, age, sexuality, likes and dislikes, and what you're looking for. We agree that 'one picture is worth a thousand words' but make sure the pictures show you off to your best. As we are all adults we know what the naughty bits are like, so it's best to include at least one full length picture rather than pictures of 'bit and bobs'!

Your words should also be carefully considered and presented in a way that is
stylish, and attractive, and correct, i.e no spelling mistakes.

Replying to an ad
So someone has found you interesting. Or you them? Our experience has found that replies fall into two categories. People who are real and are looking for a genuine meeting. They will ask you to confirm the details of your ad, ask for further details or ask for a face picture. Secondly, picture collectors.

You will spot these as they are quick to ask for 'naughty' pictures. The genuine swinger will ask for full length shots or faces as I said earlier. Additional information for contact, i.e. yahoo messenger or MSN identities and of course a phone number. Always be sure before giving out any telephone number.

Telephone Contact
Personally We never meet people we haven't spoken to on the phone. It's to ensure that everyone is aware of what's happening, and a chance to outline any personal limits or preferences. We also like to make sure we speak to all parties concerned. Before giving out phone numbers be sure you are happy for a 'new friend' (complete stranger) to have your number, and who may answer that phone, i.e. kids, etc

Meeting
Meeting people to us means just that, no guarantees and maybe no sexual fun. It is often a purely social evening to ensure that we all get along and are happy to continue. A word of advice on the venue, the 'local' may not be the best place if you play in the darts team or take Mother in law there for Sunday lunch.

Swingers clubs offer another alternative, maybe with experience you will find what works best for you?

Drinking
This may be a strange thing to say, but our advice would be to watch what you drink, No one is saying don't drink and most people loosen up with the addition of alcohol, but you should be careful of over indulging.Too much drink is not attractive in either sex.

Limits and Rules
A rule observed by all real swingers is that No means NO. People new to the scene should remember and respect this rule. Never be afraid to say no to anything you are not happy with!

Again we would advice that your personal limits or if you're a couple the limits of both partners should be clearly set out and understood between the two of you. You should also make sure that any limits are discussed and understood with any new friends from the scene. In addition, any limits and rules explained to you should be observed and respected

Discretion
Our site is called Swingers-Clean-Professional-Discreet. We would ask that you treat others as you would want to be treated, with respect and discretion. Think about it, would you like others to tell their friends about you?